As we grow and change we will encounter conflict in our close relationships. The practice of Interactive Mindfulness allows us to manage conflict with our children and others while we respect their unique process. In the moment it is at least possible to celebrate that we are connected, even if it seems we can celebrate nothing else. Practicing Interactive Mindfulness ensures a caring transfer of information that helps to build a structure from which we can explore our curiosity about each other.

Interactive Mindfulness helps us recognize that attachment is a basic human need that shapes our behaviour. Without judging our children’s actions we are able to interact with them with the awareness that all of our behaviour and theirs means something, although we might not know what the meaning is.

Although we are in a continual process of change, paradoxically, it is our stable sense of self that allows us to grow and change. At some point we may become comfortable living in the now, and accept that there is no “there”. Notwithstanding that the relationships within our family are developmental and will never stay the same, at least, in the present moment as we practice Interactive Mindfulness, our relationships can move into balance.